This is going to be a blog away from the normal things I write about.
I want to address the meaning behind being an Army girlfriend.
There are many of people out there who can’t handle the thought of being away from their significant others for a long period of time and that’s more than fair enough.
But there are also stronger than strong people out there who are willing to take part in this kind of challenge and that, to me, restores some kind of faith in people being committed enough to do this.
It’s a common fact, however, that people do cheat on their other halves. Period. But more so when their other half is in the Army. Reasons for this are endless and I don’t really want to get into it because I’d sooner focus on the positives rather than the bad.
The reasons for me writing this blog is to express my personal thoughts and feelings about being an Army girlfriend. I think it’s important for people to know that there is a hell of a lot more to it than giving in to the typical comment of ‘ooh a man in uniform’. It is so much more than that.
It’s the fact that you’re committing yourself to a relationship not just with him but his job. Not only do you have to have the required amount of respect for him, you also have to have the correct amount of respect and pride for what he does for a living.
My other half is finishing up his last couple of days away in Austria. He’s been there for just a week but it has meant that I haven’t been able to see him for 3 weeks because of different things happening with my own life as well. Soon, this 3 week stint will happen again when he’s on exercise and at some point next year – there will be a 3 month stint.
Not only did my other half sign up for the Army long before I knew him, when I got into this relationship – I kind of did as well. That’s the best way I can describe it. I signed up for the long periods of time without seeing each other, the here-and-there times that we can message/call each other, the understanding of what can happen within his job and also I signed up because I WANTED to. When someone means that much to you, I couldn’t think of anything more brave and strong than to commit to an Army relationship.
There are hard times where you get so upset, you wonder how long you can carry on doing your Army girlfriend duties for. I’ve not had any of those times but I know people do. But you just have to remember how much you love your other half and that, depending on the person, know that it’s not going to be a lifetime thing.
So my message to people who do find themselves struggling is – you’re not alone but you have to be strong and just always remember how much you love them and know that it isn’t going to last forever depending on their type of role. As much as you haven’t signed a contract, you’ve got into the relationship because you love them and want them in your life no matter what – you have to remember that they signed a contract.
Hope this helps you guys who needed to read something a little like this.
All my love,